Nida Yasir has two children, Fareed and Silah. They are three and one year old respectively. When asked whether she thinks her family is complete, her reply is that in her opinion it is, but adds with a wink “Yasir thinks we should have more children”. For Nida having a big family and not giving them a proper education is unfair to them whereas, having a small family and providing the children with the best of everything is far more sensible. This is how she plans to bring up her own kids.
Nida has a hard time juggling work, kids and her home, but with strength and determination she manages to do it all. For her, work is very important; she feels every woman should do something with her life. If she works she remains active, she told us when she had her daughter she gained a lot of weight, but she had to get back in shape and she did it with a lot of effort.
While talking about her work she mentioned that she feels wasted if she’s not working. When asked if that meant she gets into depression when she doesn’t work, she replied “Not exactly, I feel I have worked very hard to make a name for myself in the television industry I shouldn’t leave it like that. I am not doing dramas until my children are a little grownup, as they require a lot of my time. So meanwhile I am doing linking for different channels as they don’t take much time and pay better.”
Nida basically does all the household work herself, from cooking to cleaning the house and taking care of her children. She does have a helping hand as her children are very small, but both she and her husband don’t believe in hiring fulltime help for their children.
We asked her if Yasir helped in looking after the kids and surprisingly her reply was, no. Nida said that Yasir never saw his own father looking after his children, so he also doesn’t do it either. Nida told us that even thought he doesn’t help with the kids, his support for whatever she does more than makes up for it. She does all the groceries and looks after the bills and other things as Yasir doesn’t have time because he works full time and returns home late.
Nida used to help Yasir when he was doing production work, she used to co-ordinate things for him. When the recordings used to be at their home she used to help him, at that time they only had Fareed. Nida also used to cook for the whole unit. Now, as Yasir is into direction she doesn’t help him anymore.
Nida and Yasir try to take their children out whenever they have time. Last month they went to Europe and had an amazing time. Nida told us she tries to make her children do something new and different almost everyday.
Nida and Yasir were never very social, so having children hasn’t really made a difference in their social lives. They usually only attend weddings of colleagues and take their children to award ceremonies with them.
Fareed, who is three, goes to play school. When he started school both Nida and Yasir made sure they were home before ten so that he could go to bed on time. Nida had to compromise on her social life, but feels that this is all part of being a mother. Nida made an effort to make friends in Fareed’s school and now she gets together with other mothers on birthdays and other such occasions. She feels happy and content, seeing her son enjoying himself with his friends.
We asked her if life is different after motherhood and in her opinion it definitely is. She told us about how carefree she used to be before she had children, there were no responsibilities, she used to get home late after her recordings then used to wake up late in the morning, but now she has to clean the house, cook, feed the children and do other chores. Her responsibilities have increased a lot with motherhood.
Her parents and sisters all work, but even with their hectic schedules, they help in looking after her children. She says they are a big support for her. Whenever she gets guilt pangs about not giving her children enough time, it is her mother who gives her strength.
For Nida and Yasir the best part of the day is when Yasir comes back from work. They both sit together and relate the day’s events and then spend time with the children, playing with them or taking them out for a ride. This is the favorite time of the day for all of them.
Nida’s in-laws are not the interfering type, they don’t object
if she works as they know that she was in showbiz before marriage.
Nida works 4-5 days a week for a few hours everyday. Working and not sitting idle makes her feel useful, she feels active and the minimum working hours mean that her children don’t suffer from neglect. She feels she is luckier than other working mothers, who have typical nine to five jobs, as she is in showbiz, and doesn’t have to work for too long and also earns more money.
We asked Nida to give our readers a message and she said “I see a lot of women who forget themselves while they are taking care of their families. I want to ask them to take some time out for themselves, continue their hobbies, look after there skin and figure. They should do things that make them happy; if they are happy they will feel a positive change in the atmosphere of the house. Every woman deserves this much after doing so much for her family. Look after yourselves and start working, it will make you happy and active and you will feel fresh”.