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Development of Children in the Light of Islam

Children are the bounties, gift and blessings from Almighty Allah. Hence their birth should be greeted and the Lord and Sustainer should be thanked for His grace and favor. They have been declared as good news for the parents.

The Qur'an says:
"O Zakariyya, we give thee the good news of a son, his name shall be Yahya"(19:7)
On another occasion the Qur'an tells them as the real comfort for us and pleasure to our eyes:
"And those who pray,"Our Lord! Grant unto us wives and offspring who will be the comfort for our eyes and give us (the grace) to lead the righteous."(25:74)

If anyone feels sad and unhappy at the birth of a child, he goes against the will of Allah. Such persons seek refuge in abortion, which is nothing short of killing of the child in the womb. It’s is a cruel act and Allah declares it as foolish, the Qu'ran says:
 ''Indeed lost are they who kill their children foolishly."

Almighty Allah further says: 
"Kill not your children for fear of want. We shall provide sustenance for them as well as for you. Verily the killing of them is great sin." (17: 31)

Once a Companion (Allah be pleased with him) submitted to the Messenger of Allah (Peace and blessings of Allah be upon him):"O Messenger of Allah (Peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) which is the greatest sin?" The Messenger of Allah (Peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) observed, "Polytheism." The Companion again submitted: "And what next?" The Messenger of Allah (Peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) observed: "Disobedience to parents."
The Companion submitted for the third time: "And which sin is the greatest next to it?" The Messenger of Allah (Peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) observed, “To kill your children fearing that they will share your sustenance."  (Abu Dawud).

According to Islam, children are entitled to various rights. The first and foremost of these rights is the right to be properly brought up, raised and educated. This means that children should be given appropriate, adequate, sound and sufficient religious, ethical and moral guidance to last them for their entire lives.

Effective moral training comes not from sermons, advice and instructions but from parents’ personal examples of good behavior. It is a famous Tradition of the Prophet (PBUH) that acquisition of knowledge is a must for every Muslim boy and girl. Another Hadith says, “The best of you is one who gives a good education (intellectual and moral) to his children”. Another Hadith lays stress on education of daughters. The Prophet (PBUH) once said, “He who provides good upbringing to 3 daughters shall go to Paradise”. A man asked, “What if one has only two daughters”. “He also shall go to Paradise”. Another man asked, “And what if one has only one daughter?” “He too”, replied the Prophet (PBUH).

Allah’s Apostle, PBUH also said: "Every one of you (people) is a shepherd. And every one is responsible for whatever falls under his responsibility. A man is like a shepherd of his own family, and he is responsible for them." This Hadith is reported by both Bukhari and Muslim.
Children, therefore are a trust given to the parents. Parents will be responsible for this trust on the Day of Judgment.

Moreover, Allah's Messenger, PBUH said: "Upon death, man's deeds will (definitely) stop except for three deeds, namely: a continuous charitable fund, endowment or goodwill and a pious righteous and God-fearing child who continuously prays to Allah the Almighty, for the soul of his parents." This Hadith is reported by Muslim.

In fact, such a statement reflects the value of the proper upbringing of children. It has an everlasting effect, even after death.

The Muslim child should also be given a good name after birth. The Messenger of Allah (Peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) is reported to have said: "You'll be called on the Day of Resurrection by your names and your father's names, so choose good names for yourselves." (Reported by Abu Dawud) .He also told us about some of the best names, "The dearest names to Allah are `Abdullah and `Abdur-Rahman." (Reported by Muslim)

Children are like flowers. Small children need to be loved, caressed, kissed and hugged. The Prophet loved children greatly. He would allow his grandsons Hassan and Hussain (R.A) to ride his shoulders even during his prayers.

Once Aqra bin Babis a Companion (Allah be pleased with him) visited the Messenger of Allah (Peace and blessings of Allah be upon him). He was then engaged in caressing Hadrat Hasan (Allah be pleased with him). Surprised at this act, Aqra Submitted:
“O Messenger of Allah, (Peace and blessings of Allah be upon him)! Do you also caress children, I have ten children, but I have never fondled even one of them."
Thereupon, the Messenger of Allah (Peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) raised his eyes and remarked with a look at Aqra:
“If Allah has taken mercy and kindness out of your heart, what can I do?"  (Abu Dawud)
All of us should act according to these guidelines and teachings of Islam to make the family environment most favorable, peaceful and satisfactory for the parents and healthy personality growth for children.


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