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Social Etiquettes

You have any question related to social etiquettes and day to day life? Then you have come to the right place. Post in your question and our Miss Manners will answer them for you.

Sufia Shahid an Eisenhower Fellow is a familiar face for us in Pakistan.

She is GM Corporate Events for the Pearl Continental and Marriott Hotels in Pakistan. She is also involved in a number of charitable projects.

This multifaceted and charming lady is a visiting scholar at the Finishing School. As she has a vast exposure with all segments of society.

Here she answers all your queries regarding everyday etiquettes.

 

Eid is just round the corner and there are any questions lingering in your mind regarding what to do on this festive, but hectic holiday. Fret not; Miss Manners is here to answer the most common faux pas.

Q1.
As I live in a joint family, we have a lot of people coming over to our house on Eid. It gets rather cumbersome to serve each and every guest in the trolley, so I just set all the dishes up in the dining room and our guests help themselves from there. My sister-in-law thinks it doesn’t look nice to serve people this way, but serving in the trolley gets very hectic. What do you suggest is a better way of serving on Eid?
Miss Manners:

Personally, I also try to look for conveniences on Eid. Table or Trolley, I set food in advance and keep refurbishing dishes whenever required. At lunch and dinner times, I layout the table for the guests who are joining us for either one, otherwise continue serving delicacies the rest of the day. I’d also advice not making too much of any one dish and keeping a variety of snacks and desserts at hand for emergencies.

I think you should do what suits you.

Q2.
Eid means a serious dent in my pocket! I have throngs of nieces and nephews expecting Eidi from me. Please note that I don’t mind this a bit, I think it’s a good custom and as a child I also used to look forward to getting Eidi, but lately they have started demanding a thousand plus Eidi from me! I don’t want to refuse giving Eidi to them and can’t afford to give each one a thousand plus either. Please help me with my dilemma.
Miss Manners:

Explain to your nephews and nieces or better still, their parents, that you follow a budget on Eid and can NOT afford to give Eidi on demand. Another good way out could be reasonably priced gifts that suit your pocket and are useful to these youngsters too. Wrap them colorfully and give them with a big hug and a smile before handing over the “Eid gift”.

 I am sure that “Eidi money” will not be missed.


Q3.
On Eid I am always in a dilemma as to call people before going to their houses or just arrive unannounced. We usually start making house calls in the evening and visit all family and friends so there is no specific time that I can give anyone, is it alright to land at someone’s doorstep unannounced?
Miss Manners:

Eid is one occasion when we are welcome in ANY MUSLIM HOUSEHOLD, ANY TIME. Even friends and family who are visiting for the first time do not have to ask about their intent to visit. However, people living far away, sometimes call to make sure that the family or friends they want to visit are home. So relax! It is not at all rude to visit people on Eid without calling first.



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